Friday, October 18, 2013

Laughter, secrets and friendship

Here lately I have been reflecting a lot on the past and reminiscing on old memories. I suppose as we get older those reflections of yesterday become more special and to me they certainly have. A lot of these flashbacks have been about 4 very special women that have been in my life for over 2 decades.
I have been overwhelmingly blessed with some of the best friends in life that a person can ask for. What makes me even more blessed though is that those friendships just increase with value every day and with those friendships come some amazing memories.
I have different sets of friends; those that have been a part of my life since elementary school, those that I met later in life – but formed a bond with as though I have known them my whole life. With all these friends come so many recollections in every shape and form. There are those that I have laughed with until I have cried and those that I have came to crying that made me laugh. All of them hold their own unique and special places in my heart.
I have this one very special group of girls that I know without a doubt will forever be in my corner and that I can always count on. I worked with them over 20 years ago and through the years some of us lost contact with each other. Thanks to the world of Facebook though, we have reunited and to be honest I their friendships mean more to me now than ever! We all in have our own distinctive personalities in some ways, but that just makes our bond of friendship stronger and more enjoyable because we balance each other out. But then in other ways we are all so much alike that it’s kinda scary. The most wonderful thing about our friendship that we share is that I know that I will ALWAYS have someone there – no matter what time or where – each of them will do everything in their power to be there for me and they know that I would do the same for each of them.
We get together once every month or so when everyone’s schedule will allow and for hours we sit and laugh about the same things every time we get together. We hold secrets that we will take to our graves and that I know without a shadow of doubt will be guarded by them until the end. I can pretty much venture to say that even a slight amount or torture won’t break these girls to talk! Honestly when we get together we should probably make our waiters take an oath of secrecy for anything that they might overhear.
The laughter and the tears that we shed when we are with each other are such a special part of our friendships that we have and I cherish that aspect of it. More than that though I value the trust that we have in each other and knowing that no matter what I can come to them. I can say honestly that if I showed up at any of their doors with a body they wouldn’t ask a question they would just say let me get my boots and shovel. (Not that any of us are capable of that – just in case an ex from one of our lives goes missing and the FBI sees this blog.)
I talk to my kids about the friendships that they form in life and express to them that a true friendship is definitely one of the most precious of treasures in this life. When you find a true friend like the ones I have found in these women - you are very blessed. I want my children to have those kinds of relationships in their lives. I want them to know that when I can’t be there or when their “natural family” can’t be there that they will have someone that is equally as important in their lives. That’s what I have with these ladies and I can’t think of a more perfect example of friendship for my kids to have to follow.


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